Never have the characters of ‘Zindagi Gulzar Hai’ spoken to me as clearly as they did through this episode. It was one of those episodes that weigh you down emotionally but you come out feeling lighter for it. It carried more memorable moments than the previous episodes combined, those that gave us a new insight into each of the characters and left us feeling closer to them than we have ever been. Just for that, this episode ranks high in my regard.
Coincidentally, telecast on an International Women’s day, this episode appealed to the woman in me, the wife, the daughter, the sister, and the mother in me. Through the characters of Sara and Kashaf, the esteemed author Umera Ahmed, reiterated the immense power we hold over a child’s emotional well being as a parent. Their emotional upheaval struck a deep chord and left me shaken as a mother. While one was raised without constraints in the lap of luxury with minimal lessons on right and wrong, the other was raised by a single parent as a witness to a father’s cruel neglect, struggling to make both ends meet, struggling to survive against all odds and make a better life.
Sara’s breakdown over losing Farhan through her own fault was anticipated; nevertheless it was heart wrenching to see her accuse her mother of not drilling some sense into her, which could have saved her marriage. On hindsight, she wasn’t wrong in expecting that of a parent who holds the tough job of protecting their children, even against themselves. As a mother who is close to her daughter, Ghazala was the one to have enough power to influence Sara’s decision. Sara looked up to her mother, emulated her with pride. Chances were, even through her ego-induced blind haze, her mother could have made a vital difference in the decision that changed Sara’s life. Sara did not have to pay such a heavy price in order to mature.
I am dumbstruck at Ghazala’s lack of remorse and forethought. Even now, she refuses to see, let alone acknowledge, where she had gone wrong. In this regard, Sara is lucky to have reflected on her actions, and realized her mistakes. Ghazala is poorer for not knowing any better than she did before.
Kashaf, Kashaf, Kashaf! What a hard shell she wears, over a sensitive child who fears, the world outside and the emotions within; overwhelmingly strong and vulnerable to a fault, she takes my breath away when she reveals a scarred piece of her soul.
Forgive me if I falter in expressing Kashaf’s hold over my heart, the way this character tugs at the deepest chords of my primal instinct as a mother to shield her with all I have. This episode exposed Kashaf’s innermost feelings, and what we see is a scared little girl who thinks herself to be incapable of being in a loving relationship. Kashaf rejects Osama’s proposal because she thinks she is unworthy. No one deserves to carry such a burden of insecurity and low self esteem for no fault of theirs, throughout their lives. How is Murtaza’s (a father’s) neglect of his daughter less of an abuse, when the scars his cruel disregard has left on Kashaf, are so deep and clear for all to see? Abuse is not just physical, or one that is inflicted through words. A father’s abandonment is as much an abuse that leaves one scarred for life and is equally unforgivable.
Heartbroken Osama saying, ‘Propose karna buri baat tho nahi hai’; it is hard to see a decent man who has silently loved Kashaf for years, holds her in high regard, understands and sees her just the way she is, being so desolate yet brave about Kashaf’s refusal to marry him. May he get a life partner who is deserving of him!
Zaroon! Charmer extraordinaire plays a supportive and loving big brother to his depressed sister, Sara. Their relationship alongside the other sibling bond of Kashaf-Sidra adds zest to the show. They are the true reflection of what we look for in our relationships with our siblings – a bond so pure and unconditional, never fears to tell the truth, but always supportive of the other, irrespective of the decisions.
Zaroon was shown in a new light that charmed us even more. Don’t you agree? His chit-chat with Sir Ibrar over why he chooses Kashaf (of all people) as his life partner was disarming. I was floored by his sincerity. We need to get into his mind a little more, for he seems to have more depth than what he reveals – an interesting facet that makes him appealing. The fact that he does not know Kashaf as well as he thinks he does is crystal clear when he requests Sir Ibrar to present his proposal to Kashaf. What a mistake! Ofcourse she is going to look at it as a slight at her image.
Precap of Episode 16
By far one of the best precaps of the show, this one was adrenaline thumping good. It had me holding my breath till the last second and then had me bursting out laughing. Cannot, I repeat, CANNOT wait for the next episode; this is what all the previous 15 episodes were leading up to – The Mighty Proposal by the one and only Zaroon Junaid. Ha ha, very typical of him to shoot from someone else’s shoulder. Sir Ibrar plays a reluctant matchmaker for his favorite nephew, which obviously does not go down well with the self-respecting Kashaf. Miss Hoity Toity does a chudail on the charmer with her sister Sidra as witness.
Reviewer, ‘Talk Soap’