‘Let’s get down to business’, was the entire feel of the latest episode of ‘Zindagi Gulzar Hai’. Leaving behind the roses and the romance, we were handed a heavy dose of reality with a thud. Smiles made way for frowns while the Charms chilled. Gone were the kasme wade made by Zaroon; at the first hurdle he stumbled and quickly forgot the very rules he set – he stopped communicating and sulked like a spoilt brat nursing a massive dent to his ego.
Kashaf had changed so much post marriage that she could judge her husband’s mood just by hearing his voice. Her world that was limited to her mother and her two sisters has now expanded to include the irresistible Zaroon and slowly his immediate family too. The last few scenes where she is shown bonding with her sister-in-law Sara over the latter’s trousseau shows how far she has come in terms of being social as against her nature of shutting out everyone.
Kashaf successfully received a stamp of approval from her in-laws. It was heartwarming to see Ghazala accept her daughter-in-law’s worth to Junaid and the fact that she came to know of Kashaf’s transfer from Kashaf herself says a lot about the efforts taken by both to get to know each other better. Ghazala finally saw Kashaf for what she was without the cloud of perceptions blinding her. As Zaroon stated, communication is the key to better understanding.
Ah well, that rule of Zaroon’s flew right out of the window when he heard Osama unwittingly mention his proposal to Kashaf. What!? ‘I was not the the only one to propose but was also the second?’ That pricked his over-sized ego and left a gaping hole in his efforts to be a sensitive, understanding, and a supportive husband. Zaroon was quite predictable in his small mindedness. Even Osama pegged his reaction right. Zaroon ended up reacting just the way he feared he would if he knew though he was quick to mask his reaction in front of Osama.
Bechari Kashaf! Phasle mit gaye par dooriyan badd gayi…..Kashaf was in a light hearted mood pulling Zaroon’s leg for a change while the boy was busy sulking and taking digs at Kashaf. Osama’s revelation ate away at his heart, and he reacts childishly.
After the separation, Kashaf must have looked forward to coming back to her charming husband who could not take his eyes off her for a second, who teased her, wooed her over phone calls, and beseeches her to return to him for he could not wait to be with her. Finally, when that moment arrived and she was right where she belonged and wanted to be, her husband refuses to meet her eyes, does not talk to her, and few times she catches his eyes, they are filled with accusation. Ofcourse she blows up when she drags the reason out of him; his continued petulance over a non-issue was something she could not come to terms with.
Try as I might, I am unable to find a plausible excuse for Zaroon’s behavior. So, she did not find Osama’s proposal to be important enough to be revealed to her husband. I might have understood his anger or a sense of betrayal if they were in constant touch with Osama and that too barely. Seeing that Osama, inspite of being Zaroon’s best friend is practically non-existent in the couple’s lives, I wonder how his proposal affected their relationship.
His accusation at Kashaf when he found out that she had left for office early in the morning without out informing him and that too on a Sunday – “tum mujhse jaan chudana chahte they” clearly showed that Asmara’s rejection had hit him hard and was yet to recover from it. Every word that she uttered while throwing his ring at his face weighed him down and had now found a reason to come out in this form. His fears of losing Kashaf, of turning out to be the kind of person Asmara believed him to be has somehow pushed him to react in a way that would turn his fears into reality – how foolish of him!
Why are men who are profuse when it comes to expressing one thing, completely shut off when it comes to others? Zaroon has been overtly expressive in baring his heart to Kashaf. He has repeatedly showered her with affection and love and made her feel special in every way but has a problem communicating when it comes to things that hurt him. He is quick to break the very rule he had set and gives in to double standards at the blink of an eye. On the swing, under the moonlight, when Kashaf brings up the topic of how many girlfriends he had, he laughs basking in her jealousy and assures her that she is the one sitting next to him as his wife not any one of those girlfriends. Janab does not apply the same logic here. While Osama proposed to her, he is the one Kashaf chose to marry. Wonder what his reaction would be if he comes to know that she had actually considered accepting Osama’s proposal but by then Osama was already engaged. Gasp!
This episode was all about relationships and the compromises one has to make to ensure that it works. Sara has had a major overhaul when it comes to her attitude towards marriage and is willing to go that extra mile to make the second one work. When questioned about it, she quickly points out to her mother that what she thinks as an ideal marriage is not actually one. Ghazala is taken aback and has an honest talk with her husband. “Koi rishta ek ideal rishta nahi hota” is his response to his wife. A relationship is a work in progress – it involves large amounts of give and take, compromises and adjustments, shared laughter and tears, even sacrifices.
There comes a time in every relationship where these questions arise – Who contributes more? Who walks away from fights? Who gives in more? Who understands more? Who is the sensitive one? Who takes the high road? Who has the power to move on without the other? Who is more dependent on the other and for what? With Ghazala and Junaid’s marriage, this talk has come a little late in the day and that too at the instigation of the daughter. I am no one to say if Sara was right in pointing it out or not but I know one thing for sure – While communication is the key to a successful marriage, timely communication is extremely important and sometimes an outsider’s perspective is what a relationship needs. In the case of Kashaf and Zaroon, both of them are letting a trivial matter fester letting a non-issue escalate into bitterness. Prolonged silence is a killer in a marriage. Speaking up on time, speaking your heart out on time can do wonders.
Rafia, Nigar and Hammad! The lady with the blue eye shadow made me laugh out loud at her blatant lies in praising Rafia. Throughout the scene I was focused on her nose waiting for it to grow an inch every time she lied. Other than that, I am not even going to analyze the importance of that scene in the larger scheme of things.
Precap for Episode 23
Junaid’s response to Zaroon’s dilemma has not left my mind- “I shall consider myself lucky that she chose me”. Oh Zaroon, listen to your father, if you cannot come up with this gem on your own. Sometimes I wonder how duffer a person can be taking home the worse option in a situation instead of taking a better one that’s glaringly obvious. Be thankful oh charmer, you have a gem of a wife in Kashaf who married you instead of your best friend. She came close though, which we shall keep it to ourselves 😉
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